Physical appearances

Actually, everybody seems to care, a lot, with appearance. And that leaves me sad. So sad, that I rather live in another place. Well, and I live... In a place called Utopia, indeed!

The real beauty comes from inside of us. It is like a light illuminating a dark tunnel. That´s why, sometimes, we feel so nice with some persons. Their light, their beauty touches our heart, so deeply, that we don´t need to see with our physical eyes.

"Beauty and the beast" is a beautiful story that I always remember when I speak about seeing beyond appearances.
He has a curse and only true love could break it. And it wasn't easy...

Who could love a "monster"?

Who could love a beast?

His appearance was so bad, so frightening, that no one dared to get close to him... How could anyone fall in love with someone so unsightly and, at the same time, which seemed so dangerous?

In real life, beasts do not exist, but there are so many persons choosing their mates based on physical appearance. So, after a certain time, the relationship comes to an end. That is inevitable! There is nothing more than an attraction, a physical attraction. There is nothing deeper to sustain them as a couple.

Love is pure and it does not care about appearance, only cares about giving, about making the other happy. The more they give, the more they get. Love does not end, it is renewed. So, if someone says "I love you" today and tomorrow or in the next few months or years says "I don't love you anymore" or "the love I felt for you is gone" I assure you, that person has never loved you.

One day, someone said to me "If someone says that will be with you forever, he is lying". Sure, that can happen. In fact, it did happen, but only for two reasons:
- He has never loved me, at all!
- He has made me a fool since the beginning, making me believe in his false and nonsense words. For a time, He won. And not even a goodbye was told!

Love is pure and totally honest, it has no second intentions. Its intentions are just giving the best, all the time, forever.

Monetary appearances

Money is not so important as people think. It only can buy material things, things that, most of the time, we do not need.

But, the most incredible and funny thing is that men think that all that women care is money! As I told in the beginning, I had five accounts on Pof (one at a time) and in each one of these accounts there were men that thought they could "buy" me. That is unacceptable in the 21st century. I was invited for the most strange and unthinkable things, at the same time they were trying to entice me with money or material things. To some, I never answered, to others I just sent "WHAT"?

And there were a few that I explained that I wasn't the type of person that was looking for an easy life.

Guess what? I spoke to the sky and only the birds listened. Even though, I had to listen that I only was looking for the men´s pocket! What the hell?!

If it wasn´t enough to call me a liar, indirectly, they also called me self-interested? The persons who know me are probably laughing right now, because that is all I am not.

On the web I found some interesting things, so I pasted down. My English is not so good, so perfect... Ups! As people always say, who say the truth don't deserve any punishment.

# 1. Health

Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.” – Dalai Lama

# 2. Love

If you want to distinguish between those who love you unreservedly, and those who love your money, try losing all your money. – Jordi Alemany

Money can buy lust, attraction and power…but it can’t buy love. This is because love is something intimate; something heartfelt; something mysterious. Money is none of these things. Money is simply a method of exchange – no more and no less. It’s used to pay for a product or a service; its convenience, comfort, and luxury – none of which typify what human beings truly need.

Many of us find this lesson out the hard way. We accumulate more, only to feel emptier. This is because we are raised in a culture that glamorizes wealth; which, in effect, leads to misconceptions and false beliefs. (http://www.powerofpositivity.com/10-things-money-cant-buy/)

# 3. Happiness

Money has never made man happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness. The more of it one has, the more one wants. – Benjamin Franklin

# 4. Integrity

To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity. – Douglas Adams

# 5. Respect

Money is your means of survival. The verdict you pronounce upon the source of your livelihood is the verdict you pronounce upon your life. If the source is corrupt, you have damned your own existence. Did you get your money by fraud? By pandering to men's vices or men's stupidity? By catering to fools, in the hope of getting more than your ability deserves? By lowering your standards? By doing work you despise for purchasers you scorn? If so, then your money will not give you a moment's or a penny's worth of joy. Then all the things you buy will become, not a tribute to you, but a reproach; not an achievement, but a reminder of shame. Then you'll scream that money is evil. Evil, because it would not pinch-hit for your self-respect? Evil, because it would not let you enjoy your depravity? Is this the root of your hatred of money?" - Ayn Rand

# 6. Peace of Mind

Money cannot buy peace of mind. It cannot heal ruptured relationships, or build meaning into a life that has none. - Richard M. DeVos

# 7. Ethics

# 8. Education

Humans aren't as good as we should be in our capacity to empathize with feelings and thoughts of others, be they humans or other animals on Earth. So maybe part of our formal education should be training in empathy. Imagine how different the world would be if, in fact, that were 'reading, writing, arithmetic, empathy.' - Neil deGrasse Tyson

# 9. Intelligence

Bottom line is, I didn't return to Apple to make a fortune. I've been very lucky in my life and already have one. When I was 25, my net worth was $100 million or so. I decided then that I wasn't going to let it ruin my life. There's no way you could ever spend it all, and I don't view wealth as something that validates my intelligence. – Steve Jobs

# 10. Spiritual enlightenment

Money can buy a house, but not a home. It can buy a bed, but not sleep. It can buy a clock, but not time. It can buy a book, but not knowledge. It can buy blood, but not health, so you see; money is not everything in life. - Unknown

(https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/best-advice-10-things-money-cant-buy-jordi-alemany)

 

11. Truth

Money may be able to buy influence, but truths are the most influential of all.  Oftentimes money is spent to push beliefs  or an agenda,  and can even be spent to create biased research to bolster an opinion.  And oftentimes, it’s the money that wins… in the short term.

In the end, no matter how much money is spent on stifling or skewing the truth, it will always be revealed in the end.

12.Time

Each passing minute is time that you will never get back; you are one minute closer to dying. This is meant to be morbid or depressing, but truthful. Our life starts to fade away from the moment we are born.

Despite all of the scientific and medical advances, there exists no practical way to significantly extend life. The extremely wealthy have spent countless amounts of money in the vain attempt to extend their lives only to find out that they die around the same age as everyone else.

No amount of money will be able to turn the clocks back. We must simply take life in, moment-by-moment, while experiencing it to the fullest.

13. Peace

The cultivation of your thoughts is the only thing that will ever bring you true peace. One aspect of this is accepting when bad things happen and turning it into a positive experience.

Look at the countless amounts of money that governments and individuals have spent in the name of “peace”. These vast sums have never been able to come close to what we would define as “peaceful”.

More importantly, your inner peace does not depend on the ‘balance’ section of your bank statement. It’s how you train your mind, set expectations, and define what inner peace truly means to you.

14. Talent

The gifts and abilities that you possess in your mind and body are priceless. While money can certain help develop a talent, it will never be able to purchase a talent or skill.

Aside from innate talent, there is the ability to learn a skill or talent; this will never be able to be purchased with any amount of money. The mental processes and dexterity of the mind and body will never be purchasable…they are invaluable.

15. True friends

Possessing money may certainly attract people who want to be friends, but it doesn’t guarantee true friendship. Most true friends love one another…and what did we discuss about money and love? The same concept applies here.

True and lasting friends are the ones there during the ‘boom’ and are still there during the ‘bust’. Money and possessions don’t matter to true friends…your person matters.

16. Knowledge

The information that you accumulate, the elements of your intellect, and the ways that you exhibit wisdom can never be bought. Have you ever wondered why some of the wealthiest people seem to act in the most asinine ways? This is because money or something else has influenced their thought processes.

Some wealthy people have stated how money makes them feel ‘invincible’, and as a result have made some truly bad decisions. So it’s not only the acquisition of this knowledge that makes it invaluable, it’s the practical application of this knowledge…neither of which money can buy.

17. Presence & Acceptance

Perhaps the most important is presence and acceptance – the ability to be mindfully present and accept, without judgment, each and every situation. This tremendous, life-changing gift is not available for purchase; only to those who seek to understand and apply the concepts.

The ability to be present, while accepting each moment as we navigate life is a valuable gift…more valuable than any amount of money. After all, if we are practice presence and acceptance throughout our life, what is the need for money?

(http://www.powerofpositivity.com/10-things-money-cant-buy/)