It seems foolish to write about this theme, though reverse psychology is a subject very present actually. We tell kids:"don't go to the stairs, you can fall down and get hurt", and they will be on the stairs before we finish saying it. I can understand them; it's their curiosity about the world. Now, when you say to an adult:"Don't give a step ahead or you'll fall into the precipice, well, I can't really understand why they have to do it. I am not saying that this type of psychology is not useful; I just don't see the point in 99% of the cases, because it's not anything more than playing games with anyone.

No-one says the truth anymore. It seems that everybody sees truth as an enemy to eliminate definitely. It may be because they are afraid of showing themselves and being rejected. Nobody likes to be exposed. I have the impression (almost sure) that everyone wants to conquer someone, and doesn’t matter the price; they are willing to pay so high... and this payment is made of lies.

If our words don’t mean what we want to say, why do we use them? Why people use words with second intentions or, worse, with hidden intentions? Hum...
I have a history to tell you and a few more examples. I also have the “translations “of what people really want to say with some words and/or sentences.  

The most common phrases (on POF):

 I feel a connection with you = It's just a "sympathetic" sentence. I heard it lots of times from people who "knew" me for 5 minutes. Means nothing!

You are special = Really and how do you know?! You know me from where? Has no meaning!

I don't have time to answer you = Sure! It might be true, yet if the person is always online (and has time to everyone except you), well, it isn't so "true", is it?!

I feel so close to you = You do? Close to what, may I ask or it's better not? Completely empty! How can people feel close to someone they don't know?!

 I really like you = It means something totally different. The person might "like" you because you are funny, clever or they like your photos (?), though it's not even close to wanting to commit to a long-term relationship (not even to a short one). They are just thinking about something physical and it's not about your eyes!

I am not looking for a relationship = Do I need to explain this one? Please, don't force me...

We need a pause/it's better if we don't speak = The person is not interested. No matter the reasons, they think you are not worthy.

I will answer you when I can/have time = They might answer you, but probably they won't!

I didn't mean that = Well, if they are saying this sentence, let me tell you that it's even worse than you thought. A lot worse...

Feel free to improve my thoughts. I am all ears! I think that women say some of these sentences too, so I truly hope that you can remember their real meaning. It would be better if everybody could say what they are feeling. But nobody likes the truth, they like masks. They need them to get what they want. I believe (well, I live) in a different world. To lie is unnecessary! Are you looking for intimacy? Look someone who is looking for the same. Why do you have to hurt others, when you can find so easily what you want?

For you that are looking for love (or already found it), you have all my respect. All of it! More than you can imagine...

19/11/2015

Today I’ll tell you a history. It’s not a good one, though.

On one occasion, I was at my hairdresser. She is a very nice person, with good values and very sociable and gentle (and no, she isn’t following me here. She doesn’t even imagine I have a blog). So, at some point, she shared with me that a man that was married for the same woman his entire life was having an affair. When his wife discovered, she started to treat him not as well as before. (I don’t know if they got divorced or not...)

It’s perfectly understandable her behaviour. Nobody likes to be betrayed, it’s such a miserable feeling.

Nevertheless, you will be very astonished with the hairdresser’s advice. She told her that instead of treating him bad or with disdain, she should show him how much she cared and loved him. He would see that and regret his acts, like a kind of reverse psychology! In theory, this has everything to work; however, in real life things are a little bit more complicated. So, think with me:

 * If he cared with his wife, he would never, EVER, hurt her. Instead of betraying her, he would be caring for her, helping her. The one who loves, never cheats! They can’t, love speaks higher...much higher!

24/11/2015

At this time you must be thinking that I think a lot! But my purpose is to put you thinking about things. Listening to different opinions helps us forming our own opinion. However, I am doing much more than giving you my opinion; I am showing you the reasons behind my beliefs. I am presenting you the facts.

Something that really shocks me is break ups. I can’t deny that, it’s completely exposed in this blog. People always have an excuse to break up with someone. The most ordinary is that one member of the couple is tired of the other member, so love comes to an end.
Attention: These words are not mine! I don’t believe in these words. And the reverse psychology enters here. Why love comes to an end when people get to know each other’s so well? Shouldn’t that be the opposite? Like, the more you know the one you love, the more you should love them?